In the late 19th century, death was almost fashionable. Funerals were well attended and even rivaled weddings in their splendor and expense. Department stores offered an array of luxury clothing for grieving mothers and widows. Black fabrics were reserved for those in deep mourning. Then shades of gray and mauve were mixed in as one felt able to rejoin society. If death wasn’t celebrated, it was at least taken very seriously.
But then, our Victorian cousins were closer to death than we are today. The average person didn’t live to see his 50th birthday, and more than three-quarters of all deaths occurred in children under the age of five.
Today, people are living longer than ever, and as a consequence, death is considerably less in vogue. Improvements in medical care, diet, and occupational safety have prolonged life. Still, they have done little to combat the new threats to our existence. The terrors of shootings and random acts of violence, the perils of hurricanes and other natural disasters, and the specter of civil unrest and even all-out war are reason enough to worry about what might lie ahead.
In times like these, peace of mind comes controlling the things you can and being prepared for the unexpected, which means setting aside money for an emergency, having health and life insurance, and even safeguarding against your own disability or death.
This last item can be the most challenging to consider. It includes thinking about what would happen if you couldn’t manage your own finances or health care. Someone should be put in charge of these essential responsibilities under a durable power of attorney and an advance medical directive.
Armed with these documents, your spouse, partner, or someone else you trust can look out for your best interests if you ever become incapacitated. Without a power of attorney, it could be necessary for a loved one to become your legal guardian through a court proceeding. Guardianships usually require letters of certification from two healthcare professionals who have examined you, as well as an attorney to represent both you and the person seeking to become your guardian. The process is expensive and time-consuming, but it can be avoided altogether with a durable power of attorney.
Failing to prepare an Advance Health Care Directive can also lead to unfortunate results. Responsibility for medical decision-making would probably fall to your next of kin, regardless of who that might be. It could be a spouse, but for a single person, an estranged family member could suddenly be responsible for making life-and-death decisions on your behalf.
Without an advance medical directive, it’s not uncommon for multiple people to have this authority. For example, if your next of kin were a group of siblings, they might argue among themselves as to what sort of medical care you should receive. Some could remember you as a fighter who would want to try every possible treatment before giving up, while others might feel that you should be kept comfortable and not be allowed to suffer.
An even worse outcome can occur when someone fails to prepare a will. It’s tempting to think that the “right people” will inherit when someone dies without a will. However, the rules of inheritance may provide only a portion of the estate to a surviving spouse and nothing at all to an unregistered domestic partner.
In these times of uncertainty, take control of the things you can. Speak with an Estates & Trusts attorney about preparing a will and other planning documents to protect yourself and the people you care about. Then, enjoy the peace of mind that comes from knowing that you are prepared for some of life’s uncertainties.
